If she hasn't started playing "A" ball yet, then she is probably behind. In my area "A" ball ranges from really good to terrible. You need to jump in the pool and decide for yourself. There are some issues sometimes but those are just bumps in the road. Find a group of girls and parents that you...
Play as many games as you can. Usually friendlies are cheaper and they are the same teams you would play in a tournament. There is nothing that can replace the stresses of live game situations.