They turned away 4 teams cause we play in ASA Philly metro not ASA of pa.
I did a little digging and what you're saying makes sense. Google reveals that The "Metro Philly ASA" is not "Metro Philly Amateur Softball Association" but "Metro Philadelphia Athletics and Softball Association". So they are riding the "ASA" name while not actually being an ASA association from what I can tell. From what you are saying, they likely left ASA to form their own thing. Heck, even the District Officers link on the PAASA site links to a PDF rather than the typical district officers layout for the PA districts.
So, since you don't play in a registered Amateur Softball Association league, you wouldn't be eligible for Amateur Softball Association events. Sucks for you, really. You may want to hook up with leagues in the surrounding ASA districts (6, 14 or even 15, maybe). Montgomery County (Norristown, etc.) softball is District 14, Chester county is 6. Bucks County is 15. Depending on where in Philly you are, any of those may work for you.
http://www.paasa.org/staff/district-map