An umpire is a judge. Do you think a judge would allow you to site court cases by yelling them from your desk at the bench, without telling you shut your mouth or holding you in contempt? There's a proper order, Your honor, I object, as ____ vs. _____ states...etc. The judge then takes what you said and rules on it. If there is a rule concern, the team manager, should call time and have a conference with the umpire and hash out the rule and/or application of such a rule. If they cannot come to an agreement, then file a protest. If you're not the team manager then shut your mouth, and throw away the rule book. If you are the team manager, then conduct yourself like one, and stop being "that guy" the rule douche and treat the umpire with a little respect and maybe you'll get some back.
I will agree to disagree with this statement. First, you are wrong, players and umpires should be held to the same standards. A player doesn't get a free pass to be an ass because he's not paid to play. If you expect them to live up to a hirer standard, then instead of addressing them as "Hey Ump..." or "Blue" you should address them as "Sir" or "Miss". You cannot expect the world of an umpire, but not give anything in return.