Primo
fat and famous pablo
find me a post where i went back and found someone who cried....
that'd be where i'd start, if i were you.....
you're coming at me.......not the other way around. i dont care enough to come at you
NFL off-season / free agency
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find me a post where i went back and found someone who cried....
that'd be where i'd start, if i were you.....
you're coming at me.......not the other way around. i dont care enough to come at you
Primo
fat and famous pablo
why would i need to list a player better than cooks at 32? what does that have to do w/ anything?
i'm not sure you're following along but i have appx 15 minutes for this
Primo
fat and famous pablo
ya...that first surgery killed him......it was horrible when he came back literally months before he should have and completely dominated the NFL...so broke down
AydenB00
The Rookie
that was the argument on why the pats shouldn't take cooks and keep the 32nd pick. name a player in the draft they can get 32 who would be better right of the gate then cooks. you obviously didn't understand the argument either because it wasn't all about the 32nd pick but your the GM
AydenB00
The Rookie
wow, if all the headcoaches and GM think just like you he should have 12-14 mill contract by now or even something. Hows that going cause there are a few teams that need that help. Especially a 1500 yard back
Primo
fat and famous pablo
be better than Cooks at what....WR? they dont need a wr....that's why i wouldn't have made the pick.
I'd rather have another DE or ILB than a WR who wont improve my qb's numbers any
this is tough for you....i get it....it takes more than reading numbers on a screen. I just dont know how much else i can help
Primo
fat and famous pablo
must have missed the sarcasm with my "money has nothing to do with it" comment earlier.....
i'm going to have to dumb it down.....on the real, this is my fault. i should know my audience better. imma go ahead and take this one
MormonBaller
Not really a Mormon
you guys shoudl quit. Ayden is roasting the **** out of you all
AydenB00
The Rookie
and then you missed the part where belicheck has had a hard on for cooks since double practices with N.O.. so he was going to get him. lets see they just got rid of Bennett, gronk is a hurt machine, Floyd probably wont fit in, so lets make it hard on brady as he gets older, how tough is it for you to figure out brady doesn't have many years left, so yea lets build the D and not score any points but it seems like they did well in FA,a , CB, 2DBs, 2 DLs, and resigning hightower, but I'm sure your GM skills will be called upon soon by one of these struggling teams but I doubt belchicks daughter would let you handwash the smegma out of her panties
stork
Rocky Mountain Oyster aka DirtDog
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...-rather-be-right-or-would-you-rather-be-happy
Would You Rather Be Right or Would You Rather Be Happy?
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~Lao Tzu
Internally, deep down, many people have the experience that they are damaged, broken, “not good enough,” or simply “not enough.” Such thoughts and the beliefs that fuel them usually have their origins in the messages received from others starting early in life. How we react in the present is strongly influenced by childhood experiences and internalized beliefs.
These beliefs and the resultant feelings are often so distressing that we protect ourselves by keeping them unconscious. Occasionally, there may be some vague awareness of their existence, but due to the discomfort they generate they tend to remain hidden—from oneself, as well as from everyone else. They also affect (or perhaps infect) most all ongoing relationships.
One way in which beliefs and feelings of inferiority are disguised and kept at a distance is through the defense mechanism of reaction-formation. Reaction-formation protects against too-painful thoughts and feelings by turning them into their opposites—for example, presenting an attitude of arrogance to compensate for underlying feelings of inadequacy—I’m not “less than” others because I am “better than” others! This occurs whenever we judge others in a negative way: we are implicitly putting them down, making them inferior, and by comparison elevating the way we see ourselves by virtue of being “superior” to them—in a given circumstance, related to a particular quality, or in general.
Feelings of superiority often manifest in the need to be in control over people and situations. The need to control can also be a way of unconsciously compensating for feeling out of control. Attempts to control exist on a broad continuum, from aggressive and overt—threatening, intimidating, arguing, demanding, and asserting, to indirect—manipulating, steering, suggesting, and cajoling. Frequently, the need to be in control takes the form of a need to “be right.” For some personalities (most of us know at least one), it is standard procedure to exert control through the need to be right, believing and acting as if they know what’s best, regardless of the situation.
For someone who is emotionally attached to the need to be right, all divergent perspectives, ideas, suggestions, and actions must be “wrong.” The need to be right convinces him or her of the correctness of his or her approach, while attachment to this end serves to justify the means used to facilitate it. When this dynamic is acted out it creates suffering for those caught in its wake—most often, partners and family members, including children.
Obviously, words can inflict considerable harm, but there are also many nonverbal ways of making clear that others are wrong. A disapproving glance or an exasperated tone of voice expresses dissatisfaction and sends a clear message that can be hurtful, and that hurt can have staying power. Especially for children, these kinds of experiences damage their developing sense of self—they cut like a jagged piece of glass, bleeding off self-worth. Every such glance and utterance is an act of subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) emotional rejection and abandonment; a psychological betrayal of parent to child—though it also does serious damage to intimate partner and other adult relationships. The need to be right can go horribly wrong.
However, the suffering caused by this behavior also extends to the perpetrator. Acting on the incessant drive to be right requires considerable energy—it can be exhausting. Attachment to being right is a form of mental and emotional slavery. There is tremendous stress inherent in having to be right all the time. Even when those invested in control have an inkling that this is unhealthy, even if they feel guilt or shame subsequent to acting out their need to be right, they are nonetheless impelled to continue to repeat it.
Would You Rather Be Right or Would You Rather Be Happy?
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” ~Lao Tzu
Internally, deep down, many people have the experience that they are damaged, broken, “not good enough,” or simply “not enough.” Such thoughts and the beliefs that fuel them usually have their origins in the messages received from others starting early in life. How we react in the present is strongly influenced by childhood experiences and internalized beliefs.
These beliefs and the resultant feelings are often so distressing that we protect ourselves by keeping them unconscious. Occasionally, there may be some vague awareness of their existence, but due to the discomfort they generate they tend to remain hidden—from oneself, as well as from everyone else. They also affect (or perhaps infect) most all ongoing relationships.
One way in which beliefs and feelings of inferiority are disguised and kept at a distance is through the defense mechanism of reaction-formation. Reaction-formation protects against too-painful thoughts and feelings by turning them into their opposites—for example, presenting an attitude of arrogance to compensate for underlying feelings of inadequacy—I’m not “less than” others because I am “better than” others! This occurs whenever we judge others in a negative way: we are implicitly putting them down, making them inferior, and by comparison elevating the way we see ourselves by virtue of being “superior” to them—in a given circumstance, related to a particular quality, or in general.
Feelings of superiority often manifest in the need to be in control over people and situations. The need to control can also be a way of unconsciously compensating for feeling out of control. Attempts to control exist on a broad continuum, from aggressive and overt—threatening, intimidating, arguing, demanding, and asserting, to indirect—manipulating, steering, suggesting, and cajoling. Frequently, the need to be in control takes the form of a need to “be right.” For some personalities (most of us know at least one), it is standard procedure to exert control through the need to be right, believing and acting as if they know what’s best, regardless of the situation.
For someone who is emotionally attached to the need to be right, all divergent perspectives, ideas, suggestions, and actions must be “wrong.” The need to be right convinces him or her of the correctness of his or her approach, while attachment to this end serves to justify the means used to facilitate it. When this dynamic is acted out it creates suffering for those caught in its wake—most often, partners and family members, including children.
Obviously, words can inflict considerable harm, but there are also many nonverbal ways of making clear that others are wrong. A disapproving glance or an exasperated tone of voice expresses dissatisfaction and sends a clear message that can be hurtful, and that hurt can have staying power. Especially for children, these kinds of experiences damage their developing sense of self—they cut like a jagged piece of glass, bleeding off self-worth. Every such glance and utterance is an act of subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) emotional rejection and abandonment; a psychological betrayal of parent to child—though it also does serious damage to intimate partner and other adult relationships. The need to be right can go horribly wrong.
However, the suffering caused by this behavior also extends to the perpetrator. Acting on the incessant drive to be right requires considerable energy—it can be exhausting. Attachment to being right is a form of mental and emotional slavery. There is tremendous stress inherent in having to be right all the time. Even when those invested in control have an inkling that this is unhealthy, even if they feel guilt or shame subsequent to acting out their need to be right, they are nonetheless impelled to continue to repeat it.
stork
Rocky Mountain Oyster aka DirtDog
Because this pattern occurs automatically and habitually, the key to changing it is to become consciously aware of the need to be right and one’s attachment to it. Through the practice of mindfulness, suffering can become an experience that indicates where one is stuck. It is in letting go of the attachment that we can unchain ourselves from a need to be right.
Several years ago I was told the story of an ongoing argument between a husband and wife. The actual subject of the argument is much less important than the process. As was often the case, the husband was certain he was right but couldn’t get his wife to back down and agree. The only thing they could agree on in this matter was to seek the counsel of their pastor.
The husband knew that the pastor would side with his position and designate him as “right.” As they shared their dramatically different perspectives, the husband made mental preparations to declare victory. To his considerable surprise, the pastor didn’t take sides, gracefully sidestepping the dichotomy of right/wrong, and the zero sum game that goes with it. Rather, he asked matter-of-factly, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”
The elegant simplicity and remarkable depth of that question is stunning. It unlocks the door to an awareness that this can be a conscious choice. While being right is sometimes accompanied by happiness, in many scenarios the goals of being right and being happy are mutually exclusive. The need to be right, and by extension, to control people, situations, and outcomes, regularly obstructs the ability to be happy—insofar as happiness is a function of contentment and peace of mind, also known as serenity.
As the Tao Te Ching describes in verse 74:
Trying to control things
is like trying to take the master carpenter’s place.
When you handle the master carpenter’s tools,
chances are that you’ll cut yourself.
And then blood gets all over the place and it’s a big mess!
Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Which is more important? Which is healthier? Which brings you closer to those you love and care about? Which moves you toward to the person you are meant to be—your true self? Looking at the two options through this lens can make the choice very simple.
Copyright 2014 Dan Mager, MSW
Author of Some Assembly Required: A Balanced Approach to Recovery from Addictionand Chronic Pain
Several years ago I was told the story of an ongoing argument between a husband and wife. The actual subject of the argument is much less important than the process. As was often the case, the husband was certain he was right but couldn’t get his wife to back down and agree. The only thing they could agree on in this matter was to seek the counsel of their pastor.
The husband knew that the pastor would side with his position and designate him as “right.” As they shared their dramatically different perspectives, the husband made mental preparations to declare victory. To his considerable surprise, the pastor didn’t take sides, gracefully sidestepping the dichotomy of right/wrong, and the zero sum game that goes with it. Rather, he asked matter-of-factly, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”
The elegant simplicity and remarkable depth of that question is stunning. It unlocks the door to an awareness that this can be a conscious choice. While being right is sometimes accompanied by happiness, in many scenarios the goals of being right and being happy are mutually exclusive. The need to be right, and by extension, to control people, situations, and outcomes, regularly obstructs the ability to be happy—insofar as happiness is a function of contentment and peace of mind, also known as serenity.
As the Tao Te Ching describes in verse 74:
Trying to control things
is like trying to take the master carpenter’s place.
When you handle the master carpenter’s tools,
chances are that you’ll cut yourself.
And then blood gets all over the place and it’s a big mess!
Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Which is more important? Which is healthier? Which brings you closer to those you love and care about? Which moves you toward to the person you are meant to be—your true self? Looking at the two options through this lens can make the choice very simple.
Copyright 2014 Dan Mager, MSW
Author of Some Assembly Required: A Balanced Approach to Recovery from Addictionand Chronic Pain
hbwb
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primo is winning by a mile.
Primo
fat and famous pablo
yep....Floyd may not work out, Gronk is hurt, Bennett is gone.....all those REALLY hurt his stat line in 2016...poor guy only had one of the best seasons for a qb in the history of the entire league
MormonBaller
Not really a Mormon
take off your rose colored glasses. Ayden is making primo look like a fool.
MormonBaller
Not really a Mormon
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Marshenko
Well-Known Member
Didn't play all that much, replaced by Dwayne Allen.
MormonBaller
Not really a Mormon
Replace CapN Crunch with Baconator and we've got a hit on our hands